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December 2022

Resilience Booster: You are Allowed to Feel What You Need to Feel

Kim Becking

Kim Becking is a change and resilience expert, consultant, impactful international keynote speaker and award-winning author who empowers and inspires leaders, teams and organizations to build a Momentum Mindset® so they can be more adaptable, resilient and ready for what’s next in this rapidly changing world. Kim recently presented to an audience of Juzo dealers and lymphedema therapists, and we felt her message may resonate with you, especially during the holidays. To learn more about Kim, visit For daily tips and inspiration, follow her on social media.

The holiday season comes with so many reasons to be grateful, from spending time with your loved ones to celebrating the holly-jolly festivities. However, it’s also a time of year that can be overwhelming—when stress often finds us, especially after the last few years of constant uncertainty, change and heaviness.

Learning to give ourselves the grace and permission to feel what we need to feel during this stressful time is an important lesson we can take with us throughout the year and is especially helpful during the holidays. The past few years has brought all of us a level of change, uncertainty and stress like we’ve never seen before. We are on an emotional rollercoaster, not sure if we will make it up the next hill or go off the tracks. A key to boosting your resilience and flipping the script on stress during this time is to feel what you need to feel.

Emotions are complex, and so are we. It's so important to have self-awareness and be in touch with your emotions—to acknowledge and name your emotions and give yourself permission to feel what you need to without guilt, without shame, without judgment, without labeling an emotion good or bad. To make the time to pause, reflect and feel. To sit with those emotions and own them, not bury or hide them. To be willing to be honest with yourself and to be vulnerable—that’s where your real power is. To go through the hard, not around it. This is what will allow you to boost your resilience and come out of your challenges and change stronger and better than before.

It’s been more than 20 years since I first heard those words, “You have breast cancer.” You think it can’t happen to you. You say, “I’m 30, I’m healthy, and I have no family history.” Life was going according to plan, but all of that changed with those four simple words. One week, I’m planning my son Brandon’s two-year old birthday party, and the next week, I’m starting my first round of chemotherapy. After aggressive chemotherapy, a mastectomy with breast reconstruction, several other minor surgeries, and treatment for lymphedema, 20 years later, I am cancer free.

The best advice I ever got was from my friend, Patti, who was diagnosed with breast cancer at 24. Unfortunately, Patti lost her battle with breast cancer in 2003, at the age of 29. But Patti’s wisdom and legacy lives on, in her own words, in our book Nordie’s at Noon.

Patti gave me a two-sided handwritten card as soon as I was diagnosed. Twenty years later, and I still have that card in my desk and pull it out when I need to remind myself that I AM ALLOWED...I have used this card as a part of my resilience toolkit for the last 20 years during stressful and hard times. I have also handed out thousands to others over the years.

Here was Patti’s advice to me as I started by breast cancer journey, and now my advice to you (with a few additions that I have added over the years), as you are navigating your own hard.

Please remember you are allowed to feel whatever it is you need to feel. Give yourself permission. You may start out on one side of the card and minutes later, you're on the other side. You may be on both sides of the card at the same time—that’s where I’ve found myself a lot lately as someone in the sandwich with aging parents and teenagers and both a mom and husband who had cancer this past year. I sit in a state of exhausted gratitude, feeling it all. We can feel grateful and sad at the same time. Or grateful and (insert feeling here). Our feelings are not mutually exclusive. It’s Ok. It’s more than OK—it’s necessary to your mental and emotional health to feel it all. To cry and also laugh, to feel exhausted and also feel grateful. Wherever you are, just remember that YOU ARE ALLOWED.

  • Click here to download a You Are Allowed card, just for you.
  • Print it out.
  • Keep it handy when you need it.
  • Give yourself the grace and permission to FEEL what you need to and be where you need to be. This is what will allow you to boost your resilience during times of uncertainty, change and adversity.
  • And, try to understand where others may be on the card as well. Give them the grace and space to feel what they need to feel—without judgement—because they may be on the opposite side of the card.

Here's to you feeling what you need to feel today and soaking up all that is good!

Follow us on Instagram, @JuzoCompression and Facebook to find out how others are coping, celebrating and surviving the holidays. We wish you all a healthy, happy and safe holiday season.


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